#MyMeno by Sam Scott

We owe it to our daughters to prepare the next generation for something that our mothers never really talked about.

We owe it to our daughters to prepare the next generation for something that our mothers never really talked about.

I’m 52 years old and peri-menopausal. I was aware of friends who suffered with hot flushes during the change but I was in no way prepared for the emotional roller coaster that has been my journey so far.

My symptoms include waves of anxiety for no real reason, brain fog and feeling emotional. In the beginning - about two years ago - I only felt anxiety occasionally but it has progressed to waking in the night with palpitations and feeling anxious on waking in the morning which then leads to me feeling very emotional throughout the day. I’ve always been a confident, ‘seat-of-the-pants’ kind of person so the anxiety has been especially debilitating.

I went to see my GP six months ago and she prescribed me anti-depressants but I’ve not taken them as I don’t believe I’m depressed. It appears this is a common reaction from GPs but currently I prefer to try to manage my symptoms through meditation. Discovering the power of meditation has probably been the one positive to come out of all this. I’ve been using meditation apps and soundtracks to help deal with the overwhelm and to calm myself down.

I wish I’d been given more information and help from my GP and had been aware that there was more advice available. I feel like rather than being the back bone of my family, I’ve become the weak link which is difficult for me as the rest of my family are so dynamic. I sometimes find it hard to confide in them as I feel it’s a weakness. I do speak to my husband and my daughter but I don’t like to worry them.

The advice I’d give to others would be to research everything you can as I find other peoples experiences really helpful. There’s now lots more information out there, especially social media and online resources.

Unfortunately menopause has the potential to undo many strong women. We have our confidence stripped away and feel like a burden as opposed to the previous strong role we’ve played in our family. It’s so important to find your strength and not let this define who you really are.

Peri/Menopause is something that requires much more education and information, which thankfully is becoming the case. We should not suffer in silence. We owe it to our daughters to prepare the next generation for something that our mothers never really talked about. How brave they must have been!